PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT PREGNANT
Nothing happens in a vacuum. Pregnancy does not affect a woman. It affects her, the baby, and all of the people around her who know she is pregnant. The – Not Pregnant – have questions too.
YOU – WHY IS SHE…. ?
This Bud’s for you: husbands, boyfriends, FOB [ Father of Baby ], SO [ Significant Other ], gay couples contemplating surrogacy to enlarge their family, the currently non-pregnant half of the lesbian couple, well-meaning relatives and friends.
I can help: people who are interested in pregnancy in general, home school students needing guidance for class projects, and nursing students concerned with “the family’ experience.
Just about everyone has questions about reproductive health, pregnancy, and related topics. You search the internet and run into “twists, turns, and add-ons’ that lead in the opposite direction of where you are trying to go regarding information about pregnancy, childbirth, newborn care, reproduction, gender health, etc. It can be overwhelming, time consuming, and frustrating. Worst of all are comments based on misinformation, myths and wrinkly wives tales that are often interwoven with enough fact to make the hack sound true. She wants you to be the buddy who can deal with the maze and simplify her life – but what a maze!
ME – NOTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN FAMILY
One of the major changes I’ve seen in the healthcare system during my career is that there are fewer nurses caring for many more patients. The doctors, nurses, and other healthcare providers are too busy doing what must be done for everyone – at the same time – that they do not have time for a woman’s basic questions. If they can not properly educate the pregnant women – everyone else must be getting ignored.
Meanwhile, the type of patients we see is becoming more diverse by the day. In the past month, I have helped pregnant women who are surrogates for gay couples, lesbian couples, and couples who can no longer conceive. I have helped polygamous families, monogamous families, and women who are going to raise a family on their own. Eventually, the transgender community will develop procedures and technologies to become pregnant as well.
Regardless of their situation, just about everyone has someone who cares about them. People have questions. They [ you | deserve accurate, nonjudgmental answers.
ME A NURSE, WIFE, MOTHER, FRIEND
During my career, I have served as an L&D [ Labor and Delivery | nurse, unit educator, team manager, and in all positions in-between. I even served as a combat nurse with the 12th Evac. during the First Gulf War.
WE – CAN WADE THROUGH THIS TOGETHER
Recently, I had a patient become angered over having swallowed her gum. She thought it would be in her unborn child’s hair at birth. I have had patients try ‘remedies’ that they learned from ‘trusted’ websites only to harm their child. I have had men pull me aside and ask me – as covertly as they could – about testing for STDs and paternity. Perhaps most surprisingly, I have helped many husbands and fathers understand what a prostate is – and how it causes pregnancy.
Many people do not know the basics of pregnancy, their bodies, or how to properly care for themselves. Regardless of gender, our sexuality is often misunderstood. A lack of knowledge can only serve to hurt us and our families.
I am here to help you address your fears, reduce the stress caused by misinformation, and maybe improve your response to care during one of the scariest, yet most important, times of your life – that of bringing a new life into the world.
WE – THE OTHER “HALF”
Our goal, yours and mine, is to understand the healthcare management process of your partner or surrogate. You may also have concerns about your personal future as it pertains to reproduction, pregnancy, child birth, and mother | parent | baby issues.
WE – AND EVEN MORE
This subscription plan is for people who are concerned with the experiences of a mother to be. I am developing additional pages to introduce myself to future clients who are pregnant, pre-pregnant [ preconception |, post-pregnant [ postpartum |, students, and men who want to address their own healthcare. I will offer specialized information and subscription plans for each type of client. Obviously, I will not discuss issues regarding a specific client with any other client.